THE CHILD’S WORLD OF PLAY

     Have you found yourself with a stiff back or sore knees from lying on your grandchild’s bedroom floor? Do you know more about doll tea party etiquette than you ever thought you would? Have you been turned into a captured robot?  

    If that sounds vaguely familiar, you’ve likely been immersed in your grandchild’s imaginary world. It is a special place where you can support your grandchild’s emotional growth and communication skills.

      In a child’s world, play is not just fun. It’s a vital way for them to solve problems, express emotions, and make sense of their experiences. As a child therapist, parent, and grandparent, I’ve witnessed the magic of how children grow and evolve through play.

    There are simple steps any caring adult can take to enrich a child’s playtime. First, be an attentive observer and follow your grandchild’s lead—remember, play is their domain. Second, use play as an opportunity to practice active listening which we discussed in the last post to  reflect your grandchild’s actions and words. This encourages them to lead the play, engage in problem-solving, and express their emotions.

    The child’s bedroom is often the best place to play. It is usually a place of comfort and filled with toys and stuffed animals.  

    If you are lucky enough to have regular visits at your home with your grandchild, it is helpful to have a box of toys and a designated play area to encourage mutual play.  It is important to set boundaries or limits before playing. Depending on your grandchild’s energy level, risk tolerance and impulsivity, clear limits may reduce the need for first aid supplies or superglue for household repairs. Set behavioral limits (e.g. “No hitting others or throwing things”) Set limits based on your personal tolerance (e.g. No jumping on the sofa) 

    Limits provide predictability and help your child or grandchild feel safe. Your grandchild can now have fun and create their own world of play.  

     The flow of games or creative play is best left in the hands of the child. Let them choose the activity. They may make you an active participant or relegate you to the role of  observer. Introducing stuffed animals or puppets into the play is a great way to expand communication with your grandchild.

    Have fun in the world of play and feel free to share your experiences with the group. 

     Till next time.

           Papa Jim